Your attitude is contagious to your children and family members. If you look at moving as an exciting adventure full of fun, new possibilities, then you’re halfway to getting your children on board for a ride.
Most adults and children don’t like the changes associated
with moving, so it’s your job to get them looking forward to it. The younger
the child, the less able they are to “see into the future” as you do. They tend
to focus on missing friends and family.
Acknowledge and empathize, but balance your/their feelings
with what’s to be gained.
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Communicate patiently and frequently. Let family
know, step by step, what is happening and what is likely to happen next. Tell
them what the move means to the family – how important it is.
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List all the advantages there are for the move.
For example, will the family be closer to Grandma, or another favorite person?
Will they be closer to the ocean, a park or other favorite place? If you
promise they’ll be able to see old friends and family frequently, be sure to
keep your promise.
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Show as many pictures of their new home,
neighborhood and city as possible. Allow everyone in the family to participate.
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Introduce family to the new community online.
Draw a map or print one out and show how close things are… where schools are,
where favorite Auntie lives, and other points of interest to help them orient
themselves in their new surroundings.
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Be ready for those “What about me?”
questions. Explain… knowing they won’t
have to give up favorite hobbies or sports goes a long way toward helping thru
the adjustment.
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Keep your child occupied by letting them plan
what to pack and what to take in the car on the way to their new home. Pack a
box or two of their special things and make sure it arrives at your new home
before you and the kids arrive so they won’t have to wait for their favorite
things until everything’s unpacked.
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Encourage family to take the time to exchange
good-byes with friends and loved ones and get addresses, e-mail addresses, and
phone numbers to stay in touch.
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Try to stick to normal routines as much as
possible. We are all creatures of habit, don’t break those habits.
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So, stay calm and make the choice to have an
engaging, fun adventure with the move to your new home. ENJOY!
Tim Brodowski, MBA, CNE, GRI, BPOR, CIEA, MilRes Spec Call/Text 858-354-2354 TimBro97@aol.com www.TimBroHomes.us BRE #0122576
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